Humanity 3.0 Skills/Drills We Can Learn & Practice

What skills/drills can we learn and practice in order to plant ourselves in Humanity 3 awareness and responsiveness? Adam's question, Household-As-Ecology meeting June 11/12

1. In going into any situation, pause and consider "What do I actually want here from this situation?"

2. Ask myself ‘Why?’: clarify the goal, the "why" of doing anything and everything.

3. Practice consciously using the language we're developing - "shooting hoops".
Eg. Yes/and instead of yes...but; I have been....... rather than I am.......

4. Sense consciously into what might be happening for others, especially those we're interacting with directly.
- Ask "What might be involved in ________?"
- Ask "How might I take response-ability for minimizing negative impacts?"
-Anticipate what it might be like for others to receive your requests. "Anticipating amounts
to caring." Connor
-Have a plan B, multiple ways of meeting needs in a situation, including especially your
own needs, to decrease the pressure on others.

5. Focus on everyone feeling seen and heard in what they are experiencing and what they most want to have heard, to generate win/win synergies.
Win-win seems paradoxical from a Humanity 2 perspective. It becomes understandable when the relationship power struggle [to count and be recognized by the other] is separated from the issue being negotiated, when people feel seen and heard and sense the relationship being cared about.

6. Recognize the collaborative/generative when you encounter it, and playing into it. "Amplify it". Jean. Theory of Improv - if you see the generative anywhere in the world, jump on and take it to the next level. Charlotte

7. Make the most of moments of breakthrough.
- Externalize the new awareness and experience - write about it, talk with someone else about it, do an above the line cycle. If someone else understands, if it is real for them [I know it is real in a different way." Adam. It's the meta-knowing] If it isn't real for someone, it kind of fades away.

8. Build structures of joy in[to] the learning process as a purely pragmatic part of the process. Adam. "Deepening the quality of my pleasures" Simon.

9. Look for spots of embarassment, shame - or possible embarassment/shame - in myself and others. Ask "What's hidden under that embarassment/shame? What assumptions is it based on? Do I agree with those assumptions? Do they agree with those assumptions? Does it make sense to b embarrassed here?”